I have
been working with my psychologist for five years. We have mostly been working
on chronic health issues, depression, anxiety, emotional childhood neglect
and trust issues. About 1 month ago I finally realized how truly isolated
and disconnected I have made myself to avoid being hurt or abandoned. This
has truly been the biggest breakthrough in psychotherapy and has taken so
long because I kept
testing my
psychologist’s trust and I finally had to accept it in my life. After
I finally committed to wanting to change this in my life, my psychologist
suddenly told me she was no longer going to be able to do private practice
(she also does in-patient) and is quitting at the end of the month. I once
again feel abandoned. She is being great at helping through the
“termination
phase” and giving me some
referrals but
I don’t feel like I have another five years to commit to a psychologist
before we finally get somewhere and I’m not sure I am going to be able
to trust anybody else again. In the past 5 years I have been hospitalized
5 times for safety and I finally felt like these things were getting under
control. But, since she told me she was quitting I have been diagnosed as
bipolar, my mom
has been in the hospital for 3 months and they can’t figure out what
is wrong with her, I got a new job but now I am having problems with it,
and 2 of my support groups suddenly stopped without warning. What am I supposed
to do now???? I’m willing to try a new psychologist, but I know I’m
going to have a very hard time opening up for a long time..... HELP!!!!
In your previous five years of psychotherapy you have learned
more than you probably give yourself credit for. You have learned to trust
someone who at first was a complete stranger. You have learned to talk about
some of your most secret inner experiences. You have learned to recognize
when you feel overwhelmed and to ask for help.
These are important
discoveries.
Moreover, understand
that, once discovered, these discoveries will not abandon you. Your learning
to trust someone who at first was a complete stranger will not abandon
you. Your learning to talk about some of your most secret inner
experiences will not abandon you. Your learning to recognize when
you feel overwhelmed and to ask for help will not abandon you.
Yes, life goes
on, and trials and difficulties keep springing up like mushrooms after a
rain. But, regardless of what happens next, cling to the belief that what
you have learned already will not abandon you. Go, therefore, and find a
new psychologist and continue your treatment, confident in what you have
learned in the past five years.
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