How
can people whos [ sic ] jobs are to care be such a [
expletive ]? Stop being an [ expletive ]; your [
sic ] a dumb [ expletive ] head.
I don’t get much hate mail, but the little I do get
comes from persons whose orientation to life stands upon a seething mass
of unconscious hostility and
anger and who object
when, in my own political incorrectness, I dare to say so. And why are you
so consumed with anger and hostility? Well, your bitterness derives from
the fact that your parents never cared about you—that is, they didn’t
care for you as a child needs to be cared for with true love. Instead your
parents manipulated you emotionally and treated you like an object, leaving
you emotionally crippled, with a
fear of love.
Wanting a psychotherapist to care for you is just a way to avoid admitting
the truth that your parents did not care for you.
And this
leads right into the authentic value of your
“question.”
Is a
psychotherapist’s job really to “care”?
Well, in the
technical sense, no. A psychotherapist’s job does not involve being
a nanny, a friend, or confidant; it does not involve making you feel good
about yourself; and it does not involve supporting you in pointing
blame at someone
or something else, either personally or
politically. The
psychotherapist’s job should be nothing more than helping you recognize
the structure of your
unconscious motivation
so as to confront your pain
honestly—and
change your behavior in the process.
To do the job
well, though, the psychotherapist must be willing and able to probe into
all the dark and
unpleasant areas of your psyche that you, in
shame and guilt,
would prefer to keep hidden.
Moreover, here
is where it gets sticky, because many psychotherapists are themselves caught
up in the very social
illusions that secretly conspire to deny the nature of the psyche’s
dark, and often ugly, reality. So how can such persons—these bad
“therapists” I often mention in these pages—have any deep
healing influence? Well, in many cases, they can’t. And so, it comes
to this: only those who care enough about their job to cultivate, through
rigorous scrutiny, their own self-honesty will, in the end, be able to show
that they really care about you. It’s a human caring, and it cares nothing
for political correctness.
No
advertising—no sponsor—just the simple truth . . .
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