I’ve
taken part at group psychotherapy for six months. There is an issue I think
might be essential about me and I’d like to talk about, but I feel extremely
shy, 1st) because I can’t be totally comfortable with other people 2nd)
because I live in a country where abortion is crime (I’ve had an abortion
performed in a very traumatic way and then for about ten years I got pregnant
nine more times and I just stopped that when I decided to carry on my last
pregnancy). I wouldn’t want to have problems with police (I trust my
psychotherapist but not the other members of the group), besides that I think
they (the other members of the group) might be judgmental or even indiscreet
about that. There’s great prejudice about abortion here in Brazil. I
feel awful having to talk about that, do you think its really important to
tell that to my psychotherapist.
You have no reason to talk about anything in psychotherapy
unless you are open to change. But, even more than that, you have no reason
to be in psychotherapy unless you are willing to submit
everything about your life to examination and are willing for every
perversion of
your life to change.
This means that
you have to face all your mistakes with
honest scrutiny
and that it is a grave psychological error to “kill” anything that
seems too unpleasant or too inconvenient for you—whether it be a
part of your
personality, your parents, your friends, your children, or your children
in the womb.
The fact is,
abortion is a crime against humanity, for it reduces a human being
to a piece of garbage. And that cold process of reduction becomes a hate
crime resulting in profound
trauma that most
medical and psychological organizations prefer to ignore. As
Mother Teresa said, “We must not be surprised
when we hear of murders, of wars, of hatred. If a mother can kill her own
child, what is left but for us to kill each other?”
Now, if you have
stopped having abortions because you have realized what a crime it is, then
you can talk about your past abortions from a place of
sorrow. And that can
be a profound motive for scrutiny and psychological change in other areas
of your life.
Group psychotherapy,
however, as you point out, poses a real problem with
confidentiality.
The whole point of a psychotherapy group is to engage in honest interactions
with others so that you can recognize defensive patterns of social interaction
as they occur in the moment, right in the group, and change those patterns
as necessary. But if you believe that confidentially cannot be guaranteed,
then you cannot interact with others honestly; in that case it would be best
if you continued your treatment individually. Just be careful that you
don’t use this problem with group psychotherapy as an excuse to kill
the full potential of your treatment altogether.
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